Speaking of kids, this little flower got me to thinking, am I doing too much for my kids? (YES!) I surely do not advocate the kind of neglect this flower has been subjected to, but rather allowing them to navigate situations where failure is an option for the sake of building resourcefulness, responsibility, and character. That almost sounds like a mission statement. Can't you see it on a fancy poster? Kid putting away his toys without a fuss. Mom peeking her head in the room with a smirk of satisfaction on her face and a fresh manicure on her nails because with such responsible kids, she has time for such things. The caption, "As a parent, I will allow my children to navigate situations where failure is an option for the sake of building resourcefulness, responsibility and character."
My son refuses to learn to tie his shoes. I explained that ball players need to know this because moms are not allowed to dash onto the field to tie a shoe. His response, "One of my team mates will do it for me!" And then, I tie his shoe! I repeatedly deliver their forgotten items to school. I repeatedly get frustrated with them (and myself) when I ask them to do something and they protest because they are used to having it done for them. I could put the blame on them, but really, the blame falls on me. Out of lack of self discipline and love of convenience, I have placed too much responsibility on myself and not enough on them. And there is the irony of it all. Placing more responsibility on myself is convenient??? No, that is just plain stupid. And I don't like stupid, soooooo, I am going to work on having the discipline to weather some storms and endure some resistance with the greater goal of producing responsible, resourceful, thankful, beautifully blooming children! Ummm, wish me luck!